Things to know about me:

  • I’m married, and the parent of two children: Joy, our 22-yr-old daughter; and Rob, our 18-year old son, who has Asperger’s Syndrome (a high-functioning form of autism).

Things to know about this blog:

This will be a spot for public news I think my friends and family will want to read. It may also contain rants, musings, ecstasies, and posts of articles I find interesting. It is not exactly meant as a running commentary on my life, but more as the spot where I take a chance to reflect, breathe, or scream, as the moment merits. I did not originally intend this blog to be about autism/Asperger’s Syndrome (AS). In fact, I started writing this blog as a way to show that my life is about more than being the parent of an autistic child. I know how that diagnosis can expand and swallow up your whole life and identity. But most of the hits I am getting seem to be from parents wanting advice or information about autism/AS. And since my child has now reached young adulthood, I do have a lifetime’s experience to share. So I do watch the stats on this blog to see what kind of searches are finding my blog, and I’m trying to respond to those concerns. If you have a specific topic you would like me to address, please drop me a comment or an email.

About the artwork on the header to this blog:

This is part of a painting by my daughter…

About the name Rhymerchick….

Thomas the Rhymer was a Scottish medieval bard and “prophet” (in the pagan sense). The legend is that the Queen of the Fairies allowed him to choose between being a harper or a prophet, and he chose the latter. I don’t identify with the pagan elements of the legend, but I like the name, and the idea of being both a musician and a prophet.

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8 Responses to “About Rhymerchick”

  1. rakkav Says:

    There is a tremendous depth in your writing on this blog. As much as writing is my life, I wonder if I could match that kind of depth. Maybe it’s really true that you have to suffer in order to write.

    I knew that “Joy” was brilliant, but that brilliant? 8) And reading about the challenges “Rob” faces (and that his family has faced with him) is very painful for me to do. I’m glad that Joy and Rob have grown to like and accept each other more as they’ve grown older.

    Heywaitaminutethere, I thought you picked “rhymerchick” because of your brief encounter with the Poems Fray on Slate.MSN.com! Fess up! 🙂

  2. cadella Says:

    Oh my lord, are you my long lost twin sister! Between reading your experience’s with your son, and your recent surgery, we could be peas in a pod! Love it! But aside from that, as a parent of a child on the spectrum (Aspie/bipolar) and an Autism educator, I REALLY appreciate you breaking down discipline (smacks of ABA), or how parents should and can effectively deal with their children on the spectrum. Most new parents are only going to come across diet this, and DAN that info, and nothing that is concrete, and broken down into simple terms. Your awesome! We need more parents like you out there!

  3. rhymerchick Says:

    Thanks for the kudos. I really want this blog to be useful and encouraging. How old is your child?

  4. cadella Says:

    My son is ten, my students range 14-16, and they are quite severe. The unfortunate fact is that unless a parent works in the field, the majority of important information is not available for them to utilize (truly understanding what sensory issues are and actually really knowing how to implement, and observe for reactions, truly knowing how to track what set’s your child off {can we say antecedent}, so on and so forth). But I love the description of the tornado running through the house destroying everything………..those terrible twos didn’t subside tell about a year ago, and he was just as bad (and I know your exhaustion). So many stories, so little space (and Im liking hearing what I’ll be looking forward to once I have the same surgery). Like I said, keep it up. There’s alot of parents lost in the dark as to where to start, and what to do to help there kids live more functional lives (and them keep they’re sanity).

  5. Barb Says:

    Thanks for stopping by my blog. I’m glad to be of your acquaintance and will be stopping back!

  6. Manda Says:

    Thank you so much! I found your blog on the day I needed it most. I have 2 year old twin boys, one of which is a Seeker. We aren’t sure about the other, he shows some signs but the OT feels that he is just following his brother’s lead and feeding off of his actions. They both have significant expressive/receptive communication delays although they know sign language. Their tests show a cognitive age of 14-16 months and a motor skill/physical age of 3 years 9 months. They are very tall for their age so they also look like they are 4 (not very helpful when trying to explain the moving, shaking and pushing to the parent of a recent drive by victim.)
    The last week has been particularly challenging with sleep issues and in turn more than normal behavioral problems. They are in preschool twice a week to give them more socialization and have been wonderful over the past 3 months, but apparently they are more comfortable at school and are exhibiting behaviors that were previously reserved just to drive mommy crazy.
    I had to take a break today and have a good cry. I wasn’t sure where to go from here and finding your blog really “saved me.” I know there are other people out there dealing with the same issues, but reading your entries made me feel so much better. Some I feel could have been written by me and others gave me some direction where all of our therapists could not. I’m so excited to continue reading and learning how you navigated being the mom to such and sensational boy.
    Today I found hope, thank you.

  7. Crystal Lyles Says:

    Hi ma’am! Crystal Lyles (nee Rauch) here! “Joy” sent me the link to your blog, and I’m so glad she did!! My son is showing signs of being on the autism spectrum, along with his little sister. They have evaluations on the 19th with a neurologist to nail down what exactly is going on. But it’s great to know I’m not alone in facing my children’s condition. And it looks like”Rob” is really doing well too!!! He seems very happy with his job (according to his FaceBook page). I’m thrilled he’s doing well too.

    Here’s a blessed Christmas wish to you and your husband, son, and daughter (I’ll post wishes to her FB page or chat w/her online again soon)! Know that you and your family are always welcome at our new place (we moved recently).

  8. Christina Floyd Says:

    Hello. I just “handled” a meltdown from our 6 y/o with HFA. I Googled discipline suggestions and came across your blog. Reading your blog brought me an immediate sense of calm. I want to thank you for reminding me that I am not alone parenting an autistic child, and that improvements can be made. Continued blessings to your family.

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